Loneliness reassessed
Believe it or not, you will find the different stages/level or different kind of loneliness during the life. Loneliness is painful. Loneliness is not just about being lonely or having too fewer friends but it is sometimes just a state of mind or thought process of having less than others or lack of something in the lives or being less perfect. But no matter, whatever form it is if the loneliness comes; we need to defeat it and escape from it.
Loneliness varies from one situation to other and sometimes it is just plain subjective. It also varies from person to person based on individual tolerance level to the situation.
The reality is, more you feel lonely, the more you feel incompetent and good-for-nothing, then the more you quit believing anyone will ever like or love you, the more you go towards isolation. With that belief of potential rejection or desertion, the lonely person is unable to put their best foot forward with required confidence in any given situation. Hence, quickly loneliness feeds onto itself.
Often times some friends, colleague, relatives are just jealous of your lifestyle and the only way they revenge is by trying to isolate you in social settings. Whoever can not handle that isolation mentally or emotionally, then slowly go towards self-imposed loneliness.
Sometimes other friends with whom you were hanging out are not having a problem with you but they themselves are feeling loneliness and are not only disconnected from you but from rest of the world. Give them benefits of this kind of situation in their life and reaching out to them can help you both from misunderstanding.
Find a middle ground to your loneliness. It is highly possible that the same friends or relatives who used to like your company in the past, may continue to like your company in the present time as well but either of you maybe too busy with other priorities in life and are being not in touch lately. If someone is out of touch with you is nothing to do with you. It may be possible that it is their own busy lives, their own competing priorities, stresses/problems or opportunities that led to the “disconnect” between you. So reconnecting can bring that joy back.
No matter what it is,
- Don’t fear rejection.
- Don’t fear isolation.
- Don’t fear to bully.
Instead….
- Stay positive.
- Stay ethical.
- Stay focused.
- Stay connected.
- Keep patience
- Keep peace.
- Fight insecurity.
- Fight prolonged outburst of seclusion.
- Love yourself.
- Remove and fix negative view of yourself if any.
- Keep your old friends but try to make some new friends too.
Life is too short to waste on suffering from core problems like loneliness and rejection. Instead, Open up, take a chance, take a calculated risk and access the hidden but good part of you that deserves true and loving companions. Heal your wounds. Learn to love yourself and people around you and eliminate that loneliness from your valuable and lovely life!